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 March 24, 2006
marriage
the true marriage is to god and soul and that marriage lasts forever. If a marriage to another interferes consistently with that sacred relationship then is it wrong to leave that relationship? posted by Owen Schwartz MD at 7:11 AM 3 Comments:
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Maybe this is a sign that you need to work on the relationship so it becomes a sacred part of your spirituality. The discomfort may be occurring as an inspiration, a constructive discontent, to assist the expansion and development of your spirituality. Look for clues as to what you may be escaping from or to where you think you may be going to. Examine what spirit is trying to tell you and the results that you intend to get with that action of leaving your marriage. Is it worth the extreme change, and is there any other way you can get the result you are seeking without losing the marriage. Be imaginative. What about sacred love? However, if there is abuse and adultery, God does not want you to just put up with it, as this is unloving. Just be sure to check that this is not just a way out of working on furthering your spirituality. Abandoning the relationship may damage or hinder your spirituality to a point where you are further withdrawn from spirit. Nothing comes easy. Sometimes what we think is in our way is not that. It is easier to say that, and to walk away, than to actually be positive, open to new ideas and seeking improvement to be able to include the marriage in your overall spiritual journey. Meditate on the issue and then follow up with a simple pros and con sheet to ensure your feelings and signals you have are an accurate reflection of what you need to do. When thoughts and feelings are put in writing clarification occurs. Maybe the desire to leave a marriage is being pushed to you from a detrimental source as opposed to a loving source. Discern who is giving you this inclination and is it really to increase your spirituality. Do not be deceived. Many people have been taken in by the message from the wolf in sheep’s clothing, the naked man who offers you his shirt and so on.
Excellent comments and obviiously any dceision should follow deep reflection. Indeed we should never run away from challenges in a relationship or in a marriage.
And sometimes the challenges presented are hard to discern and one could make the wrong decision by leaving instead of seeing it through.
that is why I used the word "consistently" in my first comment. I still return to my original statement and add that to stay in a soul desroying relationship and loose one's connection to self and spirit is a terrible waste and a dishonour to one's spiritual life.
Suppose you love this person enough, regardless of the differences, and you stay in the relationship. You are living a spiritually motivated life, and your life shows the increased benefits of living that way. Your spouse has noticed the benefits you have and that he or she does not have, and wants to live the spiritually motivated life that you live and have shown by example. To see another walking the walk, and not just talking the talk, has influenced many to change their mind and attitude towards spirituality. Maybe to be used in that way can be part of your progress, should you be willing.